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Gratitude and The Honeymoon Effect ….

Gratitude and The Honeymoon Effect ….

Gratitude and its companion, are not just healthy emotions to practice. They are the gateway to what we all want in life: joy, enthusiasm, and even love. Thanksgiving weekend is a great time to start noticing not a few things, but all of the things for which you can...

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Reconnecting After Social Distancing

Reconnecting After Social Distancing

Reconnecting after social distancing is a little like being a hibernating animal, emerging sleepy-eyed from the den, to discover a new Spring. Except that, instead of slumbering, we have been experiencing loss after loss: of work, of meeting with others, of familiar...

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How Do You Unring a Bell?

How Do You Unring a Bell?

In these troubled times, people, overwhelmed by the chaos, are saying or hearing hurtful things that have long term consequences. When a statement is uttered in emotional circumstances, it will reverberate in the ears of the listener for a long time, perhaps for all...

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Impatience: The Entry to High Stress

Impatience: The Entry to High Stress

I am told that when I was a toddler and someone irritated me, I would point at the person and say sternly, “Go way. Be late.” I not only wanted the offender banished from my presence, but I also wanted them to be late getting to that place of exile. At age three, I...

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BELONGINGNESS IN A TIME OF SOCIAL DISTANCING

BELONGINGNESS IN A TIME OF SOCIAL DISTANCING

We are living in a time when everything conspires to make us feel separate from one another. Instead of that comfortable feeling of knowing who we are, and being in an environment where our authentic selves are accepted, we are a nation of strangers: moving frequently...

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The Leaky Faucet of Your Energy

The Leaky Faucet of Your Energy

Your energy may be leaking all day long without your realizing it. Oh, you recognize the big ones: the sudden change that makes you feel as if the rug had been pulled out from under you, the conflict that leaves you a little shaken, the near miss from an irresponsible...

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The Power of Yet

The Power of Yet

The Power of Yet is one of the most powerful tools in my resilience program. An incident a few years ago gave me a suitable name for a process I had been pursuing for years. A doctor told me that a recent blood test revealed that I had a factor in my blood that made...

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Growing Resilient While Going Blind

Growing Resilient While Going Blind

How do you bounce back when there’s no place to bounce back to? That’s the dilemma we are all facing, in various ways, as the COVID-19 pandemic winds – or does not wind – down. The landscape has changed, and we have changed. There we were happily, or at least...

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The Frequency of Love

The Frequency of Love

The frequency of love? Did you know that love can be measured? Yes, it has. It has been measured at 0.1 Hz and it is being broadcast right now by you – or not. Maybe you’re looking for love in the wrong places. First, you need to understand that the heart and the...

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The Pandemic of Loneliness and the Science of Connection

The Pandemic of Loneliness and the Science of Connection

The Covid 19 pandemic has spawned another offshoot: loneliness. It wasn’t that we were not, as a nation, lonely before the virus struck. In 2017, former U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy called loneliness a public health “epidemic.” According to a 2018 report by the...

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Stress on Steroids

Stress on Steroids

Anger seems to be everywhere these days, leaking out of normally friendly and placid people. It can be seen in their impatience: with a driver who slows down, in looking for directions, or with another person whose misunderstood request is judged to be stupid and not...

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Quiet Charisma

Quiet Charisma

Is charisma always highly-charged behavior that draws immediate attention, or is there another way to achieve that special “glow” that draws people, warrants admiration, and results in a tribe of loyal supporters? Quiet people everywhere, who often feel they are...

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Elastic Boundaries in the Midst of Turmoil

Elastic Boundaries in the Midst of Turmoil

Elastic boundaries in the midst of turmoil?  It has occurred to me in the last week that we all need to make our boundaries more elastic in these turbulent times, or perhaps for all times. Covid 19, with all its isolation and fear, has left us brain-fogged and...

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Fake News From Your Brain

Fake News From Your Brain

Our brains are fine and wonderful organs; they accumulate experiences and help us to organize them in a way that makes our lives more efficient. Touch a hot stove when you’re a toddler, and “bingo,” you learn instantly not to do that again. No need for lots of...

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Humility

Humility

Humility is one of the top traits of successful CEOs, according to the CEO Genome Study of 2018. What does humility look like, as practiced by a top leader? I pondered this as I interviewed a new coaching client. A mid-level leader in his organization, he had applied...

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“Brain Buzz” in the 21st Century

“Brain Buzz” in the 21st Century

Do you sometimes feel as if you have invisible gnats buzzing around inside and outside of your head? Are you so overwhelmed by possibilities that you start to work on one task, then set it down and switch your attention to another, and then another? Welcome to the...

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Confidence Leads To Courage

Confidence Leads To Courage

Confidence leads to courage.  I used to believe that. Master a skill, figure out exactly what to say, and you will act. Trouble is, those skills take a long time to find and master. In the meantime, you are frozen in time. An incident at a conference a few years...

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Five Time Expansion Tips for Introverts

Five Time Expansion Tips for Introverts

Introverts often feel harried, trying to rush towards that time when they can kick back and relax, freed from all social – and other – obligations. This is especially true when the introvert works in a busy organization where much of what happens is not under the...

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Is introversion a diversity topic?

Is introversion a diversity topic?

According to figures collected by Myers-Briggs over a ten-year period, introverts are roughly 51% of the population. Interestingly enough, they constitute about 15% of leaders at the lowest levels, such as supervisors, and about 2% at the top (CEOs). Does this...

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Greetings to my Tribe

Greetings to my Tribe

It’s been a long time since I’ve corresponded with you, during which I have been immersed in writing a new book. You see, I spent the last twenty years or so devising ways to help introverts develop skills to become visible and valued in a world that typically...

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Hidden Leaders in your Organization:  Good or Bad?

Hidden Leaders in your Organization: Good or Bad?

While CEOs everywhere are reporting that their biggest headache is finding leaders to implement strategy,  there are quiet, hidden leaders working away in their organizations, influencing those around them, supporting – or sabotaging – change initiatives....

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