When is an illusion healthy?

When is an illusion healthy?

by | Dec 1, 2023

I remember years ago reading a book by a cognitive psychologist, who said, “It is the goal of every good therapist to dispel his patient’s illusions.” I was horrified: I love illusions and fantasy, believing they make our lives richer, more creative, and somehow...
WHERE DO YOU KEEP YOUR SAVED TIME?

WHERE DO YOU KEEP YOUR SAVED TIME?

by | Nov 1, 2023

I notice more and more that as everything seems to speed up, people are concerned more about saving time. I like to ask them this: “Where do you keep it? Under the mattress, in a bank shaped like a pig, in a safety deposit box?” They generally look at me blankly. What...
WHO DO YOU TRUST?

WHO DO YOU TRUST?

by | Oct 6, 2023

Trust is the gold coin of relationships both personal and professional. Without it, no successful transaction, interpersonal or business, can take place. So, what do you look for when you need to trust in order to connect and interact with another? Do you have a list...
If I’m Pure Energy, Why am I So Exhausted All the Time?

If I’m Pure Energy, Why am I So Exhausted All the Time?

by | Sep 27, 2023

I’m hearing it from everyone around me: “I’m so exhausted. I spent my day off just sleeping.” “I feel as if I were moving with lead weights on my feet.” And they tell me they are too tired to plan or make good decisions, but somehow, they must move on. Science now...
How Do You Unring a Bell?

How Do You Unring a Bell?

by | Nov 4, 2021

In these troubled times, people, overwhelmed by the chaos, are saying or hearing hurtful things that have long term consequences. When a statement is uttered in emotional circumstances, it will reverberate in the ears of the listener for a long time, perhaps for all...
Impatience: The Entry to High Stress

Impatience: The Entry to High Stress

by | Oct 28, 2021

I am told that when I was a toddler and someone irritated me, I would point at the person and say sternly, “Go way. Be late.” I not only wanted the offender banished from my presence, but I also wanted them to be late getting to that place of exile. At age three, I...
BELONGINGNESS IN A TIME OF SOCIAL DISTANCING

BELONGINGNESS IN A TIME OF SOCIAL DISTANCING

by | Oct 22, 2021

We are living in a time when everything conspires to make us feel separate from one another. Instead of that comfortable feeling of knowing who we are, and being in an environment where our authentic selves are accepted, we are a nation of strangers: moving frequently...
The Leaky Faucet of Your Energy

The Leaky Faucet of Your Energy

by | Oct 14, 2021

Your energy may be leaking all day long without your realizing it. Oh, you recognize the big ones: the sudden change that makes you feel as if the rug had been pulled out from under you, the conflict that leaves you a little shaken, the near miss from an irresponsible...
The Power of Yet

The Power of Yet

by | Oct 8, 2021

The Power of Yet is one of the most powerful tools in my resilience program. An incident a few years ago gave me a suitable name for a process I had been pursuing for years. A doctor told me that a recent blood test revealed that I had a factor in my blood that made...