When is an illusion healthy?

When is an illusion healthy?

by | Dec 1, 2023

I remember years ago reading a book by a cognitive psychologist, who said, “It is the goal of every good therapist to dispel his patient’s illusions.” I was horrified: I love illusions and fantasy, believing they make our lives richer, more creative, and somehow...
WHERE DO YOU KEEP YOUR SAVED TIME?

WHERE DO YOU KEEP YOUR SAVED TIME?

by | Nov 1, 2023

I notice more and more that as everything seems to speed up, people are concerned more about saving time. I like to ask them this: “Where do you keep it? Under the mattress, in a bank shaped like a pig, in a safety deposit box?” They generally look at me blankly. What...
WHO DO YOU TRUST?

WHO DO YOU TRUST?

by | Oct 6, 2023

Trust is the gold coin of relationships both personal and professional. Without it, no successful transaction, interpersonal or business, can take place. So, what do you look for when you need to trust in order to connect and interact with another? Do you have a list...

What If…?

by | Aug 12, 2011

Personal note A friend and I took a lovely paddleboat ride on the Mississippi River on Sunday afternoon, past old crumbling brick walls backed by sparkling new skyscrapers, learning a lot of history that we had never heard. I had arranged to take my disabled friend,...

Do You Know the Difference Between Distraction and Relaxation?

by | Jun 13, 2011

Disasters have filled our daily papers: tornadoes, floods, fires…all of these are examples of stress that comes to us.  We don’t have much choice.   This week I have been thinking about all the areas of life in which we do have choices;  for example, the kinds of...