{"id":1824,"date":"2014-02-11T09:16:45","date_gmt":"2014-02-11T09:16:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/creativelifechanges.com\/?p=1824"},"modified":"2017-11-17T05:16:07","modified_gmt":"2017-11-17T05:16:07","slug":"pick-yourself-up-dust-yourself-off","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quietbrillianceconsulting.com\/pick-yourself-up-dust-yourself-off\/","title":{"rendered":"Pick yourself up, dust yourself off\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>Making a mistake or doing something klutzy can make anyone uncomfortable.<\/strong> Some people are more uncomfortable than others, going home, pulling the covers over their heads, and trying to sleep, haunted over and over by pictures of the embarrassing incident. Others apologize lightly and gracefully, and then seem to roll on without any noticeable psychological damage.What makes the difference? Actually, several things do.<strong> Those who handle mistakes easily are:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">more focused on a solution than on the event itself. Which is better? Repeating your apologies for having spilled ink on the carpet or searching immediately for a way to remove it, and taking responsibility for doing it?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">looking forward to the future rather than obsessing over the past. Being haunted by past mistakes is a great way to get stuck and fear taking a step forward.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">recognizing they\u2019re really not the center of anyone\u2019s universe, except their own. If you can forget it, others will, too. Hey, the world\u2019s a busy place; why would anyone fixate on your little mistake?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">less likely to emphasize blame when they or others make mistakes. Blame never solved anything; good problem-solving skills do.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">more able to make other people around them comfortable. If you continue to act uncomfortable, embarrassed, even obsequious, you will make other people so uncomfortable they will avoid you \u2013 not because of the mistake but because uncomfortable people make others around them feel uncomfortable, too. Who needs that?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>People are frequently most embarrassed with their own embarrassment.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>Your true worth lies in how you handle a problem, not in how you react to it.<\/strong> I once had a printing company make a lulu of a mistake in a workbook I was having printed. They stayed open all night, redoing the job at their expense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>A friend later questioned why I continued to do business with this firm. <\/strong>The reason? They had shown me how they handled a mistake, taking responsibility and going immediately to a solution. I now knew how they behaved under stress. If I had chosen a new printing company, I would have no advance information about how they would handle a problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>Being solution-oriented<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">helps people trust you<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">quiets other people\u2019s discomfort<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">Expressing guilt and shame is a child\u2019s way; searching for a solution and reassuring others you will do so is a confident adult\u2019s way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>Then, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">_______________________________________________________________________<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"color: #505050; font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; line-height: 150%; text-align: left;\">\n<div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; color: #000000;\">Lynette Crane is a Minneapolis-based speaker, writer, and coach. She has more than 30 years&#8217; experience in the field of stress and time management and personal growth. Her latest book is The Confident Introvert, written to help introverts overcome the stress of living in a culture that idealizes extroversion, so that they can thrive, and not just survive.Visit her website at <a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.creativelifechanges.com\/\">http:\/\/www.creativelifechanges.com\/<\/a> to see more in-depth articles and to view her programs.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; Making a mistake or doing something klutzy can make anyone uncomfortable. Some people are more uncomfortable than others, going home, pulling the covers over their heads, and trying to sleep, haunted over and over by pictures of the embarrassing incident. 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