{"id":4639,"date":"2021-12-05T21:07:39","date_gmt":"2021-12-05T21:07:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quietbrillianceconsulting.com\/?p=4639"},"modified":"2021-12-05T21:08:20","modified_gmt":"2021-12-05T21:08:20","slug":"urgency-is-contagious","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quietbrillianceconsulting.com\/urgency-is-contagious\/","title":{"rendered":"Urgency Is Contagious"},"content":{"rendered":"

You may have carefully set up an agenda, taking account of the critical path you need to follow in order to reach your goal, when something or someone comes along to derail your careful plan.<\/span><\/p>\n

Someone was visiting my home recently and noticed that my bathroom faucet was dripping. It actually has been dripping for quite some while as I have dealt with serious structural issues and technological issues in my office. It annoys me and I know it is wasting water, but it is lower on my priority list at this time. One of the things that I have learned to do over my many years of handling stress is to put on blinders and ignore things that are keeping me from my current most important goal. So I was steadfastly ignoring the dripping faucet when someone asked me sweetly, \u201cAre you aware your bathroom faucet is dripping?\u201d Yes, as a matter of fact I was very aware that it was dripping because you can hear it outside the bathroom by now. And I was steadfastly ignoring it.<\/span><\/p>\n

The other really important thing I have learned is that I can self regulate my emotions enough to stay serene, knowing that I will reach all of these goals eventually, and the consequences of not doing so immediately are not so great.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is not easy to continue to be serene when so many demands are assaulting us from all sides at the same time. This is happening more and more in modern life: the ease of communication means that more people can get in touch with us with their suggestions or demands and they can do so quickly. There’s also the \u201cconvenience\u201d of having the Internet at your fingertips to find people who will help you with your solutions. Therefore it should be easy, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

I have learned to put on blinders and continue on my serene path. It is taken me many years to do so. One of the things I used to tell my clients was that, when you are attempting to master stress, there will always be people around you who want to sweep you into that tidal wave. Is it that people who suffer from an excessive sense of urgency want company in their misery? I don’t know, but I have devised a few simple questions to be asked of someone who is trying to drag me into the Whirlpool of their urgent emotions:<\/span><\/p>\n