Social Confidence and “Extrovert Skills”

Social Confidence and “Extrovert Skills”

by | Dec 4, 2015

“I used my extrovert skills.” “I had to learn some extrovert skills.” “Oh, well, I don’t have extrovert skills.” I hear these phrases all the time – and they drive me crazy. When did the ability to be socially graceful or to display good manners become the sole...

Business Coaching and Introverts

by | Nov 23, 2015

When you hire a business coach and develop a program or product, the first marketing instructions you get will probably be something like this: “Contact your friends, send them a warm letter, offer them your services or product, and ask them if they know people who...
The “Sliding Scale” of Introversion-Extroversion

The “Sliding Scale” of Introversion-Extroversion

by | Jul 2, 2015

  After my talks, people often come up to me and say, “I used to be an introvert – but I got over it,” or, “I’m not sure; sometimes I think I’m one thing and sometimes the other. Can you be both?” Actually, you can be both, changing from one situation to another,...

Bullying in the Workplace: Who Bullies Whom?

by | May 29, 2015

Over 40% of employees in the workplace have experienced bullying, a persistent pattern of behavior that intimidates, degrades or otherwise undermines the wellbeing of the target. Bullying is four times more prevalent than sexual abuse, and, according to a study at the...
The Unintended Consequences of Being an Introvert

The Unintended Consequences of Being an Introvert

by | May 11, 2015

As more and more attention is being paid to introversion, thanks to Susan Cain and her book, “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking,” the world is slowly becoming aware of introvert value and, what’s better, willing to make some adjustments...

Introversion, Gut Feelings, and Trust

by | Jan 20, 2015

Maybe – just maybe – your gut-level feeling that you shouldn’t be doing something is right. But if you’re an introvert, you’ve probably had a lifetime of being told to ignore your feelings, and urged to act just the opposite. Want to stay home and read? “What’s the...
Transforming your year

Transforming your year

by | Jan 5, 2015

Everyone tells you that you must have a clear vision of where you want to go and who you want to be. Not everyone tells you exactly how – and how not – to get to that vision.   For example, suppose you want a life in which you are well paid and appreciated for your...
The Holiday Time and Energy Bandits

The Holiday Time and Energy Bandits

by | Dec 1, 2014

Time and energy bandits are habits and thought processes that can suck you dry, leaving you exhausted and harried. One of these bandits, which particularly rears its head at the holiday season, is perfectionism. Now perfectionism is a wonderful trait – in its place....

Introvert Nervousness – Friend or Foe?

by | Nov 17, 2014

  “I’m now able to give a talk in public, but I’m still nervous. I guess I won’t ever get over it.” The speaker was a woman in one of my seminars, and the topic was introversion and public speaking. Her assumption was that because she was an introvert, nervousness was...