When is an illusion healthy?

When is an illusion healthy?

by | Dec 1, 2023

I remember years ago reading a book by a cognitive psychologist, who said, “It is the goal of every good therapist to dispel his patient’s illusions.” I was horrified: I love illusions and fantasy, believing they make our lives richer, more creative, and somehow...
WHERE DO YOU KEEP YOUR SAVED TIME?

WHERE DO YOU KEEP YOUR SAVED TIME?

by | Nov 1, 2023

I notice more and more that as everything seems to speed up, people are concerned more about saving time. I like to ask them this: “Where do you keep it? Under the mattress, in a bank shaped like a pig, in a safety deposit box?” They generally look at me blankly. What...
WHO DO YOU TRUST?

WHO DO YOU TRUST?

by | Oct 6, 2023

Trust is the gold coin of relationships both personal and professional. Without it, no successful transaction, interpersonal or business, can take place. So, what do you look for when you need to trust in order to connect and interact with another? Do you have a list...
If I’m Pure Energy, Why am I So Exhausted All the Time?

If I’m Pure Energy, Why am I So Exhausted All the Time?

by | Sep 27, 2023

I’m hearing it from everyone around me: “I’m so exhausted. I spent my day off just sleeping.” “I feel as if I were moving with lead weights on my feet.” And they tell me they are too tired to plan or make good decisions, but somehow, they must move on. Science now...
The Pandemic of Loneliness and the Science of Connection

The Pandemic of Loneliness and the Science of Connection

by | Sep 17, 2021

The Covid 19 pandemic has spawned another offshoot: loneliness. It wasn’t that we were not, as a nation, lonely before the virus struck. In 2017, former U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy called loneliness a public health “epidemic.” According to a 2018 report by the...
Stress on Steroids

Stress on Steroids

by | Sep 10, 2021

Anger seems to be everywhere these days, leaking out of normally friendly and placid people. It can be seen in their impatience: with a driver who slows down, in looking for directions, or with another person whose misunderstood request is judged to be stupid and not...
Confidence Leads To Courage

Confidence Leads To Courage

by | Sep 28, 2019

Confidence leads to courage.  I used to believe that. Master a skill, figure out exactly what to say, and you will act. Trouble is, those skills take a long time to find and master. In the meantime, you are frozen in time. An incident at a conference a few years...

Holding on to your identity during a transition?

by | Sep 8, 2015

  Maybe you shouldn’t be. Transitions – in life or in career – are tough. One of the hardest parts is the seeming attack on your identity when you no longer fill a given role, a role you may have played for years, even decades. People who have had to change...

Be Careful, It’s Your Heart: Warning Signs of a Heart Attack

by | Feb 5, 2013

Personal note This week’s article is a repeat of an article I do every year in February, National Heart Month. Over the past few years, I have done countless presentations of my talk, now called “The Angina Monologue,”   during which I have not only delivered...